You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head.
Think about that.
We are constantly talking to ourselves, from the time we wake to the time we fall asleep.
We talk to ourselves, tell ourselves stories...more than we ever talk to anyone else.
Stop telling yourself stories.
We're good at making up stories and telling them to ourselves.
"I won't be able to do that."
"She's mad at me."
Today with e-mail and social media it's even worse.
You read something on social media...
"Oh, he's talking about me."
Or you get an e-mail from someone and think...
"Damn, she hates us."
We are constantly telling ourselves stories, made up stories.
We fill our head with negative thoughts, fake stories, and self-limiting thoughts about what we can and can't do.
But the real truth?
Those stories aren't true, she doesn't hate you, and yes, you can do that.
That's the truth.
It's not the story we tell ourselves, but it's the truth.
Have you ever read an e-mail or a post from someone and thought they were mad at you, only to realize that you read the tone of the message wrong, and they're not mad at you at all?
That's a story in your head.
Do you ever think your boss is always pissed off at you, but if you took a second to talk to them face-to-face, you would realize that's not true at all?
That's the story in your head.
Do you ever think to yourself how out of shape you are, how far you have to go, and how you can't do anything?
That's the story in your head.
Confront any of the above scenarios, take action, and you'll typically realize it's a fairytale, you were flooding your mind with those negative thoughts for no reason.
I'm right there with you.
I always fill my head with stories...
"This client is not happy with their experience or results."
"This team member must really hate me for doing that."
But then I take action and confront it, and it's usually just a story I was making up in my head.
So, whether it's a story about someone, or a story you're telling yourself about how you can't do something, stop telling yourself stories.
Take action, face it head on, and you'll quickly realize it's all in your head.
1% Better.
Dedicated to Your Success,
Doug Spurling