What Do You Really Want? (Save This)

Toned.

Healthy.

Feel better. 

These are all great goals, right?

Yes. 

Those and similar lines are commonly what we hear from people on day one when we ask them what their goals are. 

Although that's a great starting point, and we can work our magic, dig a little deeper, and find out the actual goals, it's important to have a clear understanding of what you actually want. 

In order to have motivation to show up when you don’t want to (which will happen…a lot), you need to know your true purpose, your true “why.”

We often just go through the motions, try to exercise on a regular basis, eat healthier, but never have a specific target that we’re working towards.

Now...

There's no right answer as to what that target is, but it's really hard to achieve something if you don't know what you want to achieve.

So here are a few things that help...

There's the "fluffy" side of it, and then there's the analytical side of it.

Let's start with the "fluffy" side of it. The mental side.

The stuff that can't be measured, or it can't be plugged into a formula.

I call this exercise the 5, 6, 7. 

I suggest you spend some time in the next day or two to complete this exercise. 

Here goes...

What is your goal? 

(1. ANSWER)

Why is that important to you?

(2. ANSWER)

Now, why is that important to you?

(3. ANSWER)

And, why is that important to you?

(4. ANSWER)

Why is that important to you?

(5. ANSWER)

Almost done, why is that important to you?

(6. ANSWER)

And finally, what would it mean to you when that happens?

(7. ANSWER)

The exercise is called 5, 6, 7 because the answers that you wrote for 5, 6, & 7 is actually what you want. 

You may think you want to lose 20lbs, but after you go through this exercise, you realize your 5, 6, 7 is that you want to be able to run in the backyard with your kids, be healthy and active when they're older, and create more happy memories together. 

The 20lbs is just a step that has to happen in order for that dream to come true.

So...that's the "fluffy" stuff. 

The stuff that you just skim past, don't think is important, but then wonder why you don't have motivation to change. 

If you really know your 5, 6, 7 you'll be forever motivated. 

Now, for the analytical stuff...

This is a process I like to call reverse engineering. 

And frankly, most people just never spend the time to do it. 

Now, let me preface by saying, I think this stuff is irrelevant if you don't know your WHY, or your 5, 6, 7. 

It's like money. 

We all want more of it. 

Why?

Why $100,000?

Why not $90,000 or $110,000?

Quite often it's just some random number that sounds good. 

Just like fat loss. 

20lbs. 

Why 20lbs?

That's the 5, 6, 7. 

So now let's say you have two goals. 

1. I want to lose 20lbs. 

2. I want to be able to do 10 push-ups. 

The first question you have to ask yourself is...

Is it specific?

Yes. 

Stronger is not specific. Being able to do 10 push-ups is specific. 

Is it measurable? 

Yes. 

I can't measure "I want to be able to do push-ups."

I can measure "I want to be able to do 10 push-ups."

What's the deadline?

This is where a lot of people drop the ball. 

Put a deadline on EVERYTHING. 

Parkinson's law: work expands as to fill the time available

In short, whatever time you give yourself to do something, it will take you that long. 

That's why a goal without a deadline very rarely gets achieved because the work will always keep expanding (you'll keep procrastinating). 

So you have a deadline. 

I want to be able to do 10 push-ups and lose 20lbs  in 6 months. 

Great...now the easy part. 

Just reverse engineer that down. 

20lbs in six months is 3.33 pounds per month. 

You know if you lose 3.3 pounds in the first month you're still on track. 

That's just under 1 pound (.82) per week. 

You know if you lose 1 pound per week you're on track. 

So now, all of the sudden, it seems more manageable. 

20lbs seems daunting. 

1 pound a week seems doable. 

That's just reverse engineering. 

You want to save $100,000 in 10 years. 

That's $10,000 a year. 

That's $833 a month. 

That's $27 per day. 

$100,000 seems daunting. 

$27 seems doable. 

Reverse engineer all of your goals down to manageable chunks, daily, weekly, and monthly. 

Then, it's just a matter of putting in the consistent work.

But at least now you know exactly what the target is, and why you're hitting that target. 

And...once that target has been hit...rinse and repeat the process for a new target. 

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Can You Wait?

Our daily lives are filled with instant gratification. 

Think about simple things like Facebook. 

How excited do you get when someone "likes" your post and the red dot pops up?

In the kitchen, you press a button and your food can be heated up in under two minutes. 

The microwave. 

Fitness is filled with instant gratification promises. 

Six pack abs in six weeks. 

Ten pounds in ten days. 

Our society is filled, and in some ways, craves instant gratification. 

But is that what makes us happy?

As much as we want quick fixes and instant gratification, it's not what actually makes us most happy. 

If you don't have to work for something, if you don't have to power through something, go on the journey, overcome obstacles, and find your grit to accomplish the goal, it's not that rewarding. 

Losing 10 pounds sounds great, but if all you had to do was press a button, it's not actually that satisfying or rewarding. 

However, losing those 10 pounds after months, if not years, of struggles, pushing through challenging times, and finally crossing the line, that's what is rewarding. 

Climbing Mount Everest is rewarding because of how challenging it is. 

If you could take an elevator to the top, or if it was just a stroll in the park to get there, it wouldn't nearly involve as much reward and pleasure as it does. 

Delayed gratification. 

It's one of the hardest skills to develop in all facets of life. 

If you can pass up the short term win now, put your head down and enjoy the journey, I promise the long-term wins will be much more gratifying. 

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Apology not accepted

Yesterday, my afternoon started with two back to back strategy sessions with clients. 

Who both greeted me with an apology. 

Not hi or hello. They walked through the door tripping over themselves to apologize.

I’m not new to the apology game. In fact, I may have created it. I was no more than 10 years old, hanging out with my best friend Teri when she told me to stop apologizing. I can’t imagine what I was sorry for at that prepubescent age, but in any case, her casual chiding of me prompted an endless loop of graveling on my part.

Stop saying you’re sorry.

Yes, right, sorry.

I said stop saying sorry.

Ugh, yes! Sorry!

And on it went.

I was reminded of this moment in my youth when a client shared a piece of writing with me over the weekend. In it, she spoke of her own relationship with the word sorry.   


“For thirty-six hours I had been in a constant stage of apology. Sorry I’m late. (Times ten.) Sorry I forgot to text you. Sorry I forgot the water bottle. Sorry you are wet. Sorry your team lost. Sorry I have no dinner plan. Sorry I drank too much wine and fell asleep on the couch at 9:00 PM. Sorry I’m (still) tired. Sorry about the dog (acting like a dog). Sorry about the injustice of your whole situation. Sorry I cannot fix it. Sorry you are losing your mind. Sorry I must be losing my mind!”

I think my favorite line is “sorry about the dog acting like a dog.” 

This is what so many of us do, and I get it. I apologize for the weather - for your headache - for your neck pain - for your job situation. It can be a way of empathizing. People will say “it’s not your fault my boss is a tool,” and I’ll say no, but I’m sorry that you’re going through it. That’s the empathy.

But I’m often apologizing for so many other things - not just what I did or didn’t do - of course I’ll apologize if I’m running late - if I missed a deadline - if I forgot something. 

But it’s that other side of apologizing - the apology you probably don’t even know you ‘re giving, not for what you’ve done or haven’t done, but for who you are. 

That’s the one that I won’t accept. 

Acknowledge when you’re in the wrong, yes. But don’t assume that everything about you is wrong.  A few weeks ago, I wrote about how I’m often a sh*t show when I’m walking out the door. That’s not my favorite quality about myself. Yes, I’m working to be more efficient.

But it doesn’t make you wrong. You are not wrong for being you - for worrying so much about others that you lose track of your own needs - for trying to be so helpful to others that you forget your own schedule - you are not wrong for being so empathetic that you express your compassion with an acknowledgement of another’s suffering.

So next time you are running five minutes late to a session - the next time you have to change your schedule because life happened - don’t apologize to me.

Apology not accepted.

Ok?

Ok.; 

The Most Popular...

Two months ago I published my first book, One Percent Better.

Every day I get e-mails and in person messages thanking me for the positive life changing lessons.

But do you know the clear winner, the most popular lesson so far?

The big 3.

So simple, but so actionable.

How is it that some people seem to have time to get all things done, and other can't even seem to get out of their own way?

I'm a productivity nerd, but it can really be summed up with one quote...

"Most of us overestimate what we can get done in a day and underestimate what we can get done in a year."

Think about it...

If I want to lose 50lbs in a year, that's just a pound a week.

Totally doable, right?

We could do that in a year. 

But today?

Workout. 

Meal prep. 

Work. 

Take the kids to school and after-school activities. 

Social media notifications. 

E-mail. 

You get it. 

In the grand scheme of things, losing a pound a week over the course of the year is not that bad, we underestimate that, but we think we can get 100 things done in a day, overestimating what is possible in 24 hours. 

What ends up happening?

Checking social media, being reactive to every stimulus that comes in front of us, and never actually getting anything done. 

So, what can you do?

Do less. 

The Big 3. 

Another favorite line of productivity that I constantly remind myself of is...

Discipline = Freedom

You have to create rules, you have to build in daily disciplines of what you're going to say yes to and what you're going to say no to. 

I'm challenging you to have the discipline to only focus on the big three each day. 

What are the three things you're going to get done that will move you forward?

Most of us have 101 things on our to-do list, and what happens?

We get none of them done because we get so overwhelmed, we pick at all of them, allow distractions to come in, and never actually make substantial progress on anything. 

Limit yourself to three things. 

For example, my three today are:

1. Write this e-mail

2. Coaching calls with my consulting clients

3. Workout

Will I get more than that done today?

Probably. 

In total, all three of those will probably only take me 4-5 hours. 

However, it allows me to focus on the three most important things. 

Once those are done, then I can move onto anything else if I have time, but I'm not going to allow distractions until those three are done. 

It also allows you to feel like you accomplished something today. 

Too often the list is so big, we never make any substantial progress on it every day, so every day feels like there is so much more to do. 

Make the list smaller. 

Being productive does not mean you're busy. 

It means you actually produced things that moved the needle, made progress. 

We all can be busy checking social media and responding to e-mails, but that doesn't result in any progress made. 

Being productive is a skill.

Just like any other skill, it takes practice and it must be developed. 

To practice, begin by writing down your big three for the day. 

Oh, and if a healthier life is important to you, a workout will be on the big three. 

If it's not on the big three, that's okay, but that's a clear indicator that it's not a priority right now so you can't expect results as you will constantly find other things to distract you or say yes to. 

What are the three things you're going to get done today?

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Why Am I Not Seeing Results?

It's probably the most common question in the industry.

You feel like you're trying hard but you just can't seem to see the results you're looking for. 

I get it.

Heck, I have my own health goals that I'm working on and find myself in a bit of a rut right now. 

It happens to all of us. 

I think there are two sides to the answer of why are you not seeing results...

1. What are you doing?

2. What are "results" to you?

I was doing my normal morning reading before diving into writing this e-mail and I came across a great line...

"More of the same usually gives you more of the same."

Another one I like...

"If you do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got."

This is just a continual reminder to be self-aware of what you are actually doing. 

Not what you want to do or think you should do, but what are you actually doing.

Execution.  

Is it that much different?

Is your nutrition different?

Is your sleep different?

Is your exercise different?

You can't expect different results if you keep doing the same thing. 

So the first question I always ask someone (and myself) when they tell us that they're not getting results is...

What are you doing differently that you weren't doing before?

Clearly, if you haven't received results in the past, what you were doing in those moments is not going to produce the results you're now looking for. 

The second part of the answer is...

What are "results" to you?

So let's assume that you are doing different stuff...

You're increasing the frequency of exercise...

You're changing nutrition habits...

You're sleeping better...

All good, right?

Well, what is the result you're after?

Results can mean a lot of things. 

We, of course, we have the popular one...

The scale.

Is it moving?

We know that can be a frustrating thing, and it's not the only thing that justifies results.

Are you eating better? Do you feel full more? 

That's results. 

Do you have more energy? Are you not as tired?

That's results. 

Are you sleeping better?

That's results.

Your clothes fit a little better. 

You're stronger.

You're in a better mood. 

You feel like you could sustain what you're doing as a lifestyle. 

All results. 

It's up to you to quantify what is a result to you, but know that this is just as much of a mental game as it is a physical game. 

It's easy to get frustrated with the scale not budging, but if you're doing things differently, chances are you're seeing results, you just have to look at it through a different lens. 

So to recap...

If you're not getting results...

What are you doing differently to expect a different outcome?

What are results to you?

Ponder on those questions and hopefully, that helped. 

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

The procrastination of self care

A few years ago, a client suggested a blog title for me. 

The procrastination of self-care.

I filed the title away, and picked at it a few times. We all have a tendency to put off our self-care, whether it’s placing other’s needs before our own or keeping too busy to acknowledge our own needs. But every time I returned to the title, I had little success in creating a substantial post.

Until last week.

Last Monday, I was hit straight in the nose by my own procrastination of self-care. I was driving in to the gym Monday afternoon, and found myself growing increasingly sad. 

The details don’t really matter - but I was coming off of a stretch of some long hours and negotiating the loss of another family member. I’d been keeping my head above water, but I can’t really say I was in a practice of taking care of myself very well. 

And to be perfectly honest with you, I was doing okay. Not great, but okay. 

Until the drive from Bowdoinham to Kennebunk last Monday. Somewhere on that drive, I got sadder and sadder, and by the time I pulled in to the parking lot of the gym, I was completely overwhelmed by my emotions. I dragged my bags out of the car and tried to get my emotions together. 

But it just wasn’t happening. 

I was literally crying as I walked in to the gym.

I nodded to my co-workers when I walked through the doors and immediately put on my giant noise canceling headphones. There was no music playing, but it was the clear sign that I didn’t want to talk to anyone. 

And I didn’t. I couldn’t.

For the next 90 minutes, I kept the headphones on and did the most mindless workout I could think of. I deadlifted for 15 minutes straight.

My throat was burning and the tears were flowing, but methodically, every 15 seconds, I lifted the bar. At the end of 15 minutes I collapsed on the floor, breathless, staring at the ceiling, trying to pull myself together. I took a shower, got ready to coach, and got on with my day. 

And by the time I started coaching, I was ready to go. But later that night on the drive home I realized something. 

I had been forced in to the self-care that I was neglecting.

On this day, it played out in the form of uncontrollable emotions. I was sad, and I hadn’t given myself the space to be sad. I said I had, but that wasn’t true. I’d kept myself busy and moving and doing, which meant that I hadn’t given myself an opportunity to actually feel my feelings.  

So myself created that space for me. 

Yeah, that’s an awkward sentence. But it’s absolutely true. If we aren’t purposeful and thoughtful about our own self-care, it will get forced upon us.

Ever gotten sick at the end of a long stretch of stress? Or even a short stretch? Ever found yourself balling your eyes out during an Adele song after a breakup? Gotten a massive headache? Pulled a muscle? Anything physical or emotional? After neglecting yourself by eating poorly, and never sleeping or resting?

Yeah - here’s the thing - you can procrastinate your self-care all you want. You can kick that can down the road a ways - but I can assure you that if you procrastinate taking care of yourself, of really looking after your own needs - then yourself, your body, your emotions, your spirit - will eventually come to collect. And it might be in ways that you cannot dictate.

So as hard as it might be, my challenge to you is this - what can you do today, tomorrow or the next day, to take care of yourself?

And do you need someone to help keep you accountable to that self-care?

Because I do. I’ve recruited friends, my spouse and my co-workers to help me out. Because self-care is harder than it sounds.

But stop procrastinating your self-care.

How Do You Treat A Goldfish?

How do you care for a sick fish?

Change the water, right?

Change the environment.

I was talking with a client yesterday about how she was "off the wagon" for the last two weeks. 

She was busy with family stuff and tried to work out at home, and just could not muster up the motivation. 

She even eluded to having a gym at her work, and that she can never find the desire to use it because "it's work."

The environment will always make a difference. 

I empathized with her, letting her know, I too struggle with the same thing. 

I have a full gym in my garage, everything I need. 

I can count on one hand the number of times I've used it in 2019.

Today is not about finding the motivation, or finding your why, it's a reminder of how important a strong environment is. 

We wish everyone the best of luck when they say they're going to work out on their own at home, but we usually find about 90% of people (us included), are unsuccessful at that attempt. 

Why?

It's your home. 

It's family time. 

It's where you cook breakfast, play with your kids, and watch TV. 

The walls don't bleed with motivation and encouragement to workout. 

I give all the credit to those that can muster the motivation to do so, but just know if it doesn't come naturally to you it's going to be a long uphill battle. 

The same goes for traditional health clubs or gyms.

Nothing against them, they are right for certain people, but with rows and rows of machines, everybody plugging along like a hamster on a wheel, it doesn't exactly feel like the most motivating atmosphere, nor do we even know what to do once we walk in. 

So what does make a strong workout environment?

In my opinion, here is a list of the top three (in no order) things that make a strong workout environment. 

1. Non-Traditional Space: Although intimidating at first, when you walk into Spurling it feels like a different space (hopefully). Different equipment, lots of open space, high ceilings, good music (most of the time), quotes on the walls, etc. We don't have rows and rows of machines, and when you walk in, you mentally already feel a little more motivated to get after it. 

2. Coaching: This is one of our three pillars (accountability and community are the other two). All clients have a coach at every single workout. So even if you don't quite have the motivation that day, the coach can usually get you to do more than what you would normally do on your own. 

3. Clients/Family: When you walk in, you see the same faces. You wave to them, they say hi to you. People know each other. You see people pushing themselves, going on their own journey, but you see them working hard, and that pushes you to work even harder, not in a competitive way, but in a motivating way. People want to be a part of something bigger than themselves, and you surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed. 

So, whether you work with us, or elsewhere, these are the three things that make for a strong workout environment. 

This goes for any change too.

Do you ever notice if you work from home, popping into a coffee shop, you instantly feel more productive.

You changed the environment.

You changed your water.

Removing yourself from a toxic relationship, a toxic work culture, you’re changing your water.

Why is this so important?

Change is hard enough. 

Getting in the habit of working out on a consistent basis is not easy, and is usually seen as something that is a chore. 

By surrounding yourself with like-minded people in a strong environment, it just makes that change a little bit easier. 

Just like your pet goldfish, make sure all the “water” in your life is fresh and clean.

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling


This Might Be....

This might be the most common trait needed to long-term success.

In fitness, and in life in general, we know we default to looking for the quick fix.

We also know that it can be very easy to get caught up in the weeds…

Should I eat organic or not?

How many servings of vegetables should I have?

Which exercises are best for me?

Should I do strength training, circuit training, or yoga?

I’ve talked in past writings about the two key drivers to success in health…

Frequency & Nutrition.

That may seem obvious, but you do have to show up in order to get results :)

We also know that you can’t outwork a bad diet.

I wish you could, trust me, but we can’t.

I’m a perfect example of that right now, I can’t expect results until I clean up my nutrition.

But, I was thinking, it goes further than that.

I think the most common behavior for long-term success is…

The ability to stick with it, stick with it when things get tough, and stick with it in the long-term.

Seriously, the amount of people that stop something because one thing goes awry is mind boggling.

This is true not just in fitness, but in life in general.

We often quit something too soon.

The moment we’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before something great is going to happen.

The ability to stick with it, when things are tough, when you don’t feel like it, might be the biggest key to success.

We had a client in the gym, doing what she could, getting modifications from the coaches, after fracturing her pelvis!

Do you have any injury?

You typically have three other limbs and a core we can work around.

Are you feeling tired, stressed, and no energy?

Working out is the greatest tool for that.

Health and fitness is not something that ever ends.

That might be scary to hear, but hopefully that excites you.

There is always something to get better at, there is always something to celebrate, there is always a win to be had.

The ability to stick with it, when you’re busy, when you don’t feel like it, when you have 10,000 other things going on in life, that might be the biggest key to long-term success.

We just created a “Visits Club” at the gym.

350 lifetime visits, 750 visits, 1000 visits, etc.

There is one person in the 1000 visits club (yay, Lynette).

Getting your name under the 1000 visits club is a great goal for everyone.

After that?

2500, 5000, …10,000?

My point is, sticking with it might be the biggest key to success.

We’re focused on fitness here, but apply to this to any area of your life.

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

You Know...

A short and simple message today on this spring Friday…

A question to ponder about, a question to drink a cup of coffee over…

Are you really giving it your best?

Seriously?

Are you really giving it your best?

Only you can answer that.

Somedays, regardless of the outcome, the answer is yes.

Somedays, if you reflect back, the answer is no.

You know, we’re all self-aware enough that we know, in the moment, whether we’re giving it our best or not.

Giving it your best doesn’t always have to equal getting more done, or losing more weight, or checking more off your list, but it does mean that when you close your eyes at night, you can confidently say you did your best.

The world needs you, more than ever, to give your best.

Your family needs you to give your best.

You need to give your best.

Yes we can have technology and other human beings to tell us when we’re lagging, or to give us a kick in the butt sometimes, but you know when you’re not giving your best.

You know when you’re throwing in the towel early, you know when you’re dragging when you could be moving a little faster, only you know if you’re not giving it your best.

Again, depending on the day, giving it your best doesn’t always mean the same thing, but if you want results in life, fitness or otherwise, you need to give it your best….

Every. Single. Day.

Are you giving it your best?

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

A gust of wind

In the book “Tattoos on the Heart,” Father Gregory Boyle tells the story of a young man battling a heroin addiction.

In counseling the boy, he says “you have to crawl before you can walk and walk before you can run.”

To which the boy replies with tears in his eyes, “But I know I can fly. I just need a gust of wind.”

The little gust of wind for my cape here came from a fan. But you never know where that gust is going to come from that's going to help you fly. 

I was listening to the book on my drive down to the gym yesterday and paused it after he told this story. I couldn't listen to anything else.

It was one of those lines that landed on my heart. 

I know I can fly. I just need a gust of wind.

We all want to run before we can walk.

Restraint is so difficult.

We know in the world of health and fitness that adopting a restrictive diet or trying to work out five days a week, in the beginning, is often the recipe for failure. We decide to run a 5k and bust out 20 miles in a week and then our bodies break down and we find ourselves battling injuries because we didn't have the patience to pace ourselves.

We adopt a no carb diet only to find ourselves gorging on a piece of cake seven days in to the 30 day plan. 

We know that in order for behavioral change to stick, we have to start slow, and stack one block at a time. 

We have to crawl before we can walk. 

We know this.

But it's that last line from the boy that pulls so hard at me. Crawl before we can walk, yes. Stacking the blocks one at a time, yes.

"But I know I can fly." 

What this boy is speaking to, is potential. 

The definition of potential is "latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulness." I believe we all have it within us to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. It's up to us to determine what that means. 

And yet..

"I just need a gust of wind."

I think we sometimes beat ourselves up over our own potential. Do you know the number one comment I hear from clients whenever I ask what we can do to help support them in the process?

"Nothing. It's not you. It's me. I just need to do a better job. I know what I need to do, I just need to do it."

To those clients I'd say no.

Stop being so hard on yourself. 

Yes you have the potential. You know you can fly. I know you can fly. 

Sometimes you just need a little gust of wind. 

Let someone else be that gust of wind for you.

A Different Look...

"How often should I workout?"

It’s a common question we get on day one when we meet with new people, and it happened again last night.

"I'd like to come 3-4x per week."

That's the common response for beginners and experienced folks alike. 

What's the problem with that?

It's not that 3-4x per week is right or wrong.

In fact, let me comment on that for a quick second. 

How often do you work out now?

If the answer is zero, even once a month is going be better than nothing. 

And in fact, sometimes setting the bar high, like the above example of 3-4x per week, although it sounds good on paper, may set the bar too high. 

I'd rather set the bar lower and constantly feel the accomplishment of going over it than set the bar too high and have the disappointment of feeling like I can never reach it. 

So, even if you want to workout 3x per week I'm going to challenge you to look at it differently. 

What's 3 x 50 (let's plan on two weeks off or vacation)?

150.

Why don't we say I want to workout 150 times this year?

Isn't it really the same thing?

I like to think of goals on a monthly, quarterly, or yearly basis. 

150 workouts in a year...

40 workouts in a quarter (90 days) ..

10-12 workouts a month...

10 workouts in May!  

That doesn't sound so bad, right?

In reality, it's the same answer as 2-4x per week, but the bar is instantly more attainable.

Now, more than most, I’m not one for lowering the bar.

I don’t want you to think this mindset shift (that’s all it is), is lowering the more.

It’s still going to be work, we can still raise it, we’re just looking at it differently.

To summarize in online line, think of frequency on a monthly basis not a weekly basis.

Why?

You have a much higher chance of achieving it. 

Something will come up this week. 

Kids will get sick.

You'll get stuck at work. 

Some life event will get in the way. 

So if you're hell-bent on getting 3 workouts in this week, it instantly sets you up for failure. 

However, if you know that you have three more weeks to get in your 10 workouts you simply adjust and execute. 

Same thing with the yearly goal of 150 workouts.

If you didn't hit your 3x this week it no longer feels like a failure because you have the other 49 weeks to get in your 150. 

Now, you can't be crazy and think you're going to get 150 in 100 days, but it builds in life's way of always putting up hurdles. 

So my question to you...

We're just about to wrap up April.

That means eight more months in 2019.

How many workouts are you going to get the rest of the year? 

Reply and let me know...

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

This Is So Underestimated

I was chatting with a client last week about their results and frequency, and I reminded her of one of my favorite lessons....

We overestimate what we can get done in a day or a week, but we underestimate what we can get done in a year. 

Read that again for me...

We overestimate what we can get done in a day or a week, but we underestimate what we can get done in a year. 

Think about that. 

Quite often we have goals like...

" I want to go to the gym 4-5x per week." 

Or...

"I want to lose 20lbs before the summer."

Well, what happens?

We try to go gung-ho, try to cram so much into a day or week, end up puttering at everything, getting frustrated that we might have set that bar too high, and then wake up a year later and neither of those goals have happened. 

I don't like to "lower standards" because I do think that most people underestimate how hard it is to actually see change, especially when it comes to fitness and nutrition. 

However, I do think we overestimate what we can get done in a day or a week. 

We have this glorious goal that we're going to come to the gym 4-5x per week, all while working full-time, taking care of the family, etc. 

The reality is, although that's great when that can happen, I think if that's your mindset you're setting yourself up for failure.

There is going to be a week or weeks where that is not possible, and now you have failure in your mind. 

So, now that you have failure in your mind because you set the bar too high, you go into hibernation mode, and say "screw it". 

That means not working out for weeks or months, making poor nutrition choices, and having a hard time getting back on track. 

Our most successful clients come 120-150 times a year.

We have a board at the gym called the "Frequent Sweaters Club."

In order to get on the board, you just have to come ten times that month. 

Sounds easy, right?

That's just 2-3 times per week. 

You'd be surprised how hard it is. 

I will tell you, for most people, that should be their goal every month with fitness. 

Get on the Frequent Sweaters board. 

Our most successful clients are not coming 4-5x per week, they just get on the Frequent Sweaters board every single month, 12 months a year. 

To stay on track with my original line of underestimating and overestimating...

I'm all for setting big lofty goals, trust me.

But when you set the bar too high each day or each week, thinking that you're going to get all this stuff done, you end up never moving the needle forward. 

You wake up a year later and no progress is made. 

But instead, if you take better action on less, consistent smaller action, you become thoroughly surprised what can get accomplished in a year. 

It's what makes 1% Better so important. 

Show up. 

Take small actions. 

Don't set a bar so high you can never reach it. 

And over the next 100 days you'll be 100% better :)

Right?

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Which Path?

Which path do you take?

As humans, we're naturally wired to take that path of least resistance.

In fact, everything is designed to take the path of least resistance.

Whether it's water, electricity, or our brains, it will always default to what is easiest, what is the shortest, quickest, or least challenging way.

Did you know wolves evolved to domesticated dogs because it was easier to scavenge on human trash than track down prey?

The path of least resistance.

So what's the solution?

Awareness is always number one.

Whether it's in fitness, nutrition, work, or life, we're always going to default to the easiest way of doing it (or not doing it all because that's actually the easiest).

So you have to consciously be aware of that, and continually remind yourself that the path of least resistance is not always the best way.

The people that have success, in any area of life, fitness included, are the ones that don't take the easiest path...

Getting up at 430am is not easy...

Showing up every single day, writing every single day (like this), for over 1000 straight weekdays is not easy...

Thinking that a 14-16 hour work day is normal is not easy...

But I know those three things, amongst a handful of others, are my personal competitive advantages.

I simply know, because it's not easy, most people won't do it.

Because it's a harder path to take, they'll be fewer people on the path, and I'll be farther ahead than most on that path.

Now that's a personal or business example, but you can relate that to any one thing...

Showing up to the gym when you have "better" things to do is not easy...

Meal prepping is not easy...

Journaling your food is not easy...

Saying no to takeout and instead making a healthy choice is not easy...

And it's why most people won't do it, so if you're looking for results, those are the things you need to do.

Go against the grain, go against what is normal or status quo, and do what others just are not willing to do.

With all that being said...

You can also use this to your advantage.

Since we know our brains are naturally going to go with the path of least resistance, we can do things that play to that.

For example...

Putting the alarm clock across the room so you have to get out of bed to shut it off...

Preparing your gym bag the night before and putting it by the door...

Hiding (or not buying) some of those food goodies (there's actually a company that sells food storage that locks for a certain amount of time)...

Have healthy foods on the counter that is quicker to access...

You get it.

As you may know by now, this change stuff (fitness, nutrition, or other) is hard, and it's mostly a mental game.

Just remember, our brains are wired to take the path of least resistance, so you need to use that to your advantage in some circumstances and go against it in others.

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Three tips to manage your time better

In the past few weeks I’ve started to track how I spend my time. Not to the minute, but every hour or so during the day, I jot down what I’ve done during the past 60 minutes. Like many of us, I’d like to be more productive, so I thought a time tracker might be a good place to start.

I feel like I’ve learned some important lessons during this process and I want to share those with you today.

You’re welcome in advance (and I apologize for the implied profanity. But poop show doesn’t sound the same…)

1. TRY NOT TO BE A SH*T SHOW

I’m not sure if sh*t show is a technically a personality trait, but if so, that’s my strongest one, behind introversion.

Anyone who has ever witnessed me trying to leave the gym at the end of the night has seen this in person, with my five bags, one coffee mug, one blender bottle, and keys? Where are my keys?

This morning, it took me an hour to get ready for work. I work at a gym, don’t fix my hair, and I’m not really required to do anything but smell better than a sweaty gym sock. Reflecting on the hour it took me to actually get pants on (sweat pants, yes), this is what happened:

*I spent ten minutes in the shower trying to get the pump to work on the new giant bottle of shampoo. That was after I got in the shower, realized the old bottle was empty, and then got out of the shower to get the new bottle. Eventually, I gave up on getting the new pump to work and took the whole damn lid off. That’s when a quarter of the new bottle fell out into the shower. I rubbed my hands in the glob of shampoo on the floor of the tub and lathered what I could manage into my hair.

Then I reached for the razor that conveniently hangs on the shower wall, because Sheila (who is not a sh*t show). The razor fell out of my hands, still slippery from the shampoo excursion, and came apart. My hands pruned as I tried to get the razor blade back on to the razor handle, and then it fell off three more times before I finally cut myself shaving my legs.

Because of course I did.

And I still missed the spot on the back of my legs that I always miss and I now have a Rapunzel like growth of leg hair.

You’re welcome for the image.

*I plucked a gray chin hair and then freaked out because it was A GRAY CHIN HAIR.

So tip number one - don’t be like me.

At all.

2. KEEP YOUR LIDS WITH THE COFFEE MUGS

I spent another 15 minutes trying to find the lid to my Yeti mug. Yes, I have 7 other mugs in the cabinet and I could find lids to go with them. But IT HAD TO BE THE YETI MUG BECAUSE YETI.

This tip also applies to Tupperware and storage containers for food. Matching lids to containers is the bane of my existence.

Side note - when I was a kid, my mom used Country Crock bowls as Tupperware and finding the butter was a sh*t show. Maybe I learned to be a sh*t show from my mom. If you’re reading this mom, I’m sorry I said sh*t…

3. MAYBE TAKE YOUR CLOTHES OUT OF THE DRIER BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY NEED TO FIND THEM.

After my 45 minute adventure in the shower, I had to find clothes. Which I’d washed. On Sunday. And put in the drier. And that was as far as I got because my laundry cycle includes putting clothes into the washer and then into the drier and then onto my person. 

Which, if you’re curious, is how I finally got pants on.

So I think my advice here is to also not be like me. Put your clothes in a drawer. Maybe fold them too.

Nah….just put them in a drawer.

BONUS TIP

Have bacon and a hair dryer ready to get your 11-year old basset hound out of the yard where he’s been eating dirt and grass in the pouring rain and is pretending that he doesn’t know his name for 25 minutes while you also periodically come out and stand in the pouring rain yelling at him.

Those are just a couple of tips that are not really tips but things you should never, ever do if you’d like to be more productive with your life.

And if you’re tempted to have me watch some Marie Kondo Netflix show, I’d offer this in all honesty:

I wrote this post so that you, reading it, will know that you’re not alone. If you walked out the door with your pants on backwards (I did this Saturday night), forgot to pack socks in your gym bag (at least once a week) or spent 20 minutes looking for the pants that you had in your hand five minutes ago (that was last Thursday for me), it’s ok.

Chances are, if organization isn’t your strong suit, there are so many other things you bring to the table. Creativity, the ability to adapt to any situation, and you probably have a lot of empathy for other people. It’s easy to feel like if we are not more organized we are wrong. That if we don’t plan more, we’re wrong. That if we don’t do things the way we are supposed to, we are wrong.

Well, as I like to tell clients who ask me if they are doing exercises wrong in my classes, my answer is the same.

You’re not doing it wrong.

Just different.

Create vs Consume...

“I know what I need to do…I just need to do it.”

How many times have you heard that line or told yourself that line?

We all do.

You see, education is rarely the problem.

As an industry, there is no shortage of information. 

If you type in "fat loss" into Google you get over 262 million hits. 

My point?

It can be very easy to consume. 

Both on our end and on your end. 

As fitness professionals, we're always trying to consume that latest information, understand what the latest research has to say and consume information in hopes of bettering the client experience, and your results. 

It can be a huge time suck, and you catch yourself consuming so much that that's all you do, and don't actually create anything. 

On our end, create would be putting on a great experience for the clients, creating results, creating engaging conversations. 

Basically the "do" or the action. 

It's the same with you as the human trying to tackle a fitness and/or nutrition journey. 

Quite often, because of all the information out there, it can be very easy to consume. 

We quite often hear lines like....

"I read this article that said eggs are bad."

"I read in this blog that eggs are awesome."

"Let me just do some more research and think about it before I sign up."

Consuming. 

I'm challenging you to create!

It's not to say that you don't need to consume any information, we want you to be educated. 

But don't let that paralyze you. 

Instead, create your own journey....

Create a workout schedule that you can commit to...

Create some nutrition habits that you can build upon...

Create some relationships with friends and/or coaches that hold you accountable...

Create! 

Don't get caught spending all your time consuming, and instead ask yourself, what are you going to create?

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Financial Fitness

You might be wondering why I'm talking about Money today.

We all know that finances can be one of the biggest stressors in life.

Financial wellness is one of the seven dimensions of wellness, and as I have discussed at length, they are all connected.

If you're stressed about money, if you financial health is not up to snuff, that's going to impact your physical wellness, your emotional wellness, and so much more.

Lucky for you, this weeks topic on the podcast is all about improving your financial wellness.

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Improving your financial wellness is key to a healthy and balanced life.

Also, it is amazing how similar financial fitness is and physical fitness is.

The behaviors are almost identical.

Give it a listen and let us know what you think.

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Have an awesome weekend.

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

Make The Switch...

I had the awesome opportunity to meet with five wonderful ladies last night who joined the Spurling Family and will be starting on Monday.

If you’re reading this, welcome :)

I always ask people “why now” when they are sitting with me on their first day.

I get everything from “I finally have the time” to a life story filled with tears and frustration.

Last night one client made the comment that it was a message she had read from me, a mindset shift.

Today, I’m going to share that message again because I think it’s so important.

"I should workout"

"I have to go to the gym today"

We need to make the switch. 

That's one of our biggest goals at Spurling.

Fitness should be something you GET to do not HAVE to do. 

"I get to workout."

"I get to go to the gym today."

Fitness for most has always been seen as a chore, it's in the same category as going to the dentist or folding laundry. 

You know you need to do it, but you really don't want to. 

Why is that?

In my opinion...

It comes down to two things.

Safety & Fun. 

Most people don't know what to do in the gym. 

They walk in, see all the equipment, maybe mess with a few things or walk on the treadmill, and they walk out. 

They do that for a little while, get frustrated they're not seeing results, and quit. 

They are afraid they're going to hurt themselves, and if they don't hurt themselves, they get bored because there is no part of walking into a scary place that you don't what anything is that screams fun. 

Our goal at Spurling is to provide a safe environment (#1), where you don't have to worry about a thing since you have a professional coach telling you what to do at every workout, with a support community keeping it fun and engaging every step of the way. 

Whether it's with us, or somewhere else, if you want to make a change, if you want to have success in fitness, you need to make the mental switch. 

Fitness should be something you GET to do, not HAVE to do. 

You see, the ultimate goal is to make the mental shift away from once you "lose those 20lbs" you'll be done. 

Sure, it's important to have goals, I more than anyone I know, am a firm believer in goals, but we're never done. 

We don't hit a goal and then hang up the shoes. 

We don't just do fitness for a month or two and be done with it. 

If you have that mindset you probably also have the mindset that it's something you "have to do."

And that's okay right now...

But I would challenge you to work on making the switch. 

Fitness, getting better, 1% Better, is a motto we firmly believe must be inside you until the day you die. 

Find something you enjoy doing, challenge yourself, step outside your comfort zone, and stick with it. 

Is it easy?

No. 

But anything worth having is never easy. 

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

What do you really want to talk about?

What do you really want to talk about?

He asked me this question when I arrived in his office, syllabus in hand, asking about one of our assignments for that semester’s Moral Theology class. I’d met Father Drexler the year before in my Sacred Scriptures class, but it took me until the next year to work up the courage to even go to his office.

I was startled by his direct, yet kind, question. 

“Uh….my assignment,” I said, chewing on his words. 

“No,” he said. “ You want to talk about something else.”

I was 19 years old, and less than a month in to my sophomore year at Gannon University. Truth be told, I was burning with questions - but not about classwork. I was intent on figuring out my purpose in life. Sure, I partied on weekends with my friends, made lasting friendships, and played sports but I was absolutely burning with the curiosity of what God’s plan was for me. 

Father Drexler was one of those rare birds to whom I felt an immediate connection. With his ocean blue eyes and stark silver hair, he was a striking yet quiet presence.

Up until that moment in his office though, I’d never been invited to speak about my feelings. And I was both refreshed and paralyzed by his invitation. 

The next day, I showed up at his office with a manilla envelope filled with my writing. I had poems, thoughts, questions and essays written on scraps of paper, typed up on my word processor, and neatly printed on notepaper. I’d never shown anyone my thoughts in such naked honesty as when I handed him that envelope. 

He returned it to me the next day with the following quote:

“Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

When he handed me back that envelope, he also became my spiritual director. He became the first person in my life to ask me about my vulnerability. To ask me what was really on my mind. To listen to me and ask me thoughtful questions. To hear me with his heart.  

Later that year, I went on my first silent retreat where I relished five days of silence, sprinkled in with prayer and reflective time. I was given a book at the retreat titled “Why am I afraid to tell you who I am?” The book was about vulnerability - about learning what it means to open up, about what it means to allow others to open up. 

The best way to get someone else to open up? 

To open up about yourself. 

Maybe it’s because of that book that I write so openly about myself. Because maybe,  while I’m telling you pieces of my story, you can know that you’re not alone. That it’s not just you. That what you think and what you feel matter. That the feelings and thoughts you are most ashamed of might be shared by someone else. 

Tomorrow night, I’m hosting a book discussion on Brene Brown’s “I Thought it Was Just Me” book. The discussion is open to everyone, whether or not you belong to Spurling, whether or not you’ve read the book, whether or not you want to come and talk or just come and listen. 

We are all living our own questions - and we can live them on our own if we want to. But you don’t have to.

I’d love for you to join me. And even if you can’t join me tomorrow night, I’d still love to know what you’d really like to talk about.

Consider that your open invitation. 

On My Butt...

That’s where I spent the last 72 hours…

I went to bed Thursday night feeling great, woke up in the middle of the night to a monster inside of me, and was bed-ridden until Monday morning.

I’m not sure if it was the flu, some GI thing, or what, but man, I was down for the count.

It was so bad that Megan actually packed up her bags and took Kaden to her moms house for the weekend so they didn’t get it….

She would come back once a day to make sure I was still alive, dressed like a character out of Breaking Bad, disinfect everything, and then leave again.

I don’t get sick often, but when I do, man o’ man, I seem to get the worst of the worst.

As always, I had a few lessons from the experience…

One, the scale still sucks.

We drive home the point that the scale is one of the worst ways to measure results, as it never tells us the full picture of what’s going on, and there are so many things that can throw it off.

In a matter of 72 hours, I had a 13 pound “weight loss” according to scale.

Now obviously that’s largely water weight and me not eating for 72 hours, something that we know is not realistic in our normal routine.

It just goes to show you how much the scale can change on hydration level alone, let alone all the other factors that skew it.

Not really fitness related, but a lesson on sometimes “1% Better” is just getting through the day.

For me to lay in bed for a day and do nothing is about the most torturous thing ever, let alone having to do that for three days.

It was a good lesson on what’s actually important in the moment.

Rest and recover.

The projects can wait, the e-mails can wait, it can all wait.

That wasn’t easy in the moment, but I kept trying to remind myself of that.

I think all of us can relate to some extent.

Sometimes we feel like we have to get 1,000 things done and it’s a “bad day” if we don’t get anything done, or if we miss the gym, or if we’re not as productive as we think we should be.

It’s a good lesson on 1% Better can sometimes mean taking some time for you, resting and recovering, because that’s what is actually going to get you better, not the list of things to do in your notebook.

So my take home?

We can’t control everything.

It may be your intent to get to the gym three times this week, but who knows you may get hit with this GI monster and not want to move for 72 hours.

I think the best example of "1% Better” is doing the best you can with what cards you were dealt that day.

As for me, I’m feeling 100% and back at it.

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling

In It For The Right Reasons...

Why are you here?

Why are you reading this?

Why are you trying to lose weight? 

Why are you trying to get stronger?

It's my hope that you're truly "in it" for the right reasons. 

Quite often we approach fitness and this journey with a form of "punishing" ourselves. 

Because I'm overweight I'm going to punish myself with exercise...

Because I ate that cake I'm going to go workout...

I need to be so sore that I can't brush my teeth the next morning...

It's comments like that that scare me. 

People are in this for the wrong reasons. 

Exercise is not a form of punishment. 

You should not be working out so hard that you can't walk down the stairs the next morning. 

It's kind of like forcing a kid to eat his vegetables rather than letting him explore them on his own. 

If you force it, he will probably resist them long-term. 

However, if you create a positive environment around it, he'll discover the vegetables he likes best. 

Fitness is the same thing. 

You should be in it for the right reasons. 

In it to add to you, not take away from you. 

Add confidence. Add strength. Add empowerment. Add happiness. 

In it for the fun and community. 

In it for a desire to get a little better every day, 1% better. 

It's the people that are in it for the right reasons that see long-term success.

If you're in it just for the quick-fix, punish myself mentality I can only promise one thing...

Inevitably you will stumble, get burnt out, and never get back on track. 

If you're in it for the right reasons it's not something you have to do, it's something you get to do. 

If you're in it for the right reasons it's not something on your to-do list, it's something you can't wait to do. 

My goal for each of you is to find something, find an environment, find people that will lift you up, not bring you down and beat the crap out of you. 

Find things that cause you to be in it for the right reasons. 

1% Better.

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling