Fear is defined as "an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat."
Or so says the Google when I look up the definition.
One of the strategies for dealing with fear is to create a worst case scenario situation. I'd like to take this moment to differentiate between using a worst case scenario to eliminate fear, and jumping to irrational conclusions when someone is five minutes late.
Just ask Doug about that time he was late for a meeting and I blew up his phone with panicked texts...
Apparently, imagining a worst case scenario is also a useful strategy to alleviate fear. I remember using this strategy in high school when I was afraid I would fail a Trigonometry test.
As it turns out, the worst thing that happened was that I failed them all, and realized my calling was in writing, as opposed to arithmetic.
Anyway, I decided to put this theory to the test of some current things that scare me.
I’m terrified of heights. Like, I watch something on t.v. where they show someone on a ledge and my legs feel funny. I suppose the worst case scenario isn’t actually heights, but falling off the ledge. Into a canyon. Thousands of feet down. To my death. Like Wile E. Cayote.
That seems pretty bad.
The worst case scenario if I encountered a snake would be….well….you'd have to peel me off of the ceiling to find out.
See above, but magnify it by 17,000. Then multiply that number by a billion.
And add infinity.
Carry the one.
4. LOOKING STUPID AND FALLING ON MY FACE
Last year, Doug brought an Improv coach in to one of our team meetings. I had been wanting to take an improv class for a long time, but I when the exercises started, I felt like I was 15 all over again. I was terrified of looking stupid, and was self-conscious about everything I was saying and doing.
Improv requires you to let go of judgement. The goal is to get out of your head, into your body, and trust your reactions. The problem was, I just....couldn't....stop.....overthinking.
I've always wanted to take a stand up class as well, but the same thing goes. I just can't stop overthinking my thinking to even think about taking a class...
If I run those two activities through the filter of what's the worst thing that could happen, well, I guess the truth is, the worst thing would be that I never tried, right?
Which brings me to my last point.
5. NOT FULFILLING MY POTENTIAL
All kidding aside (though I am not kidding about the above), one of my greatest fears is not fulfilling my potential. I have a strong sense that I’ve got more in me to give to this world than what I’ve given to this point. I don’t know if that comes in the form of coaching, teaching, writing, or mentoring, but I feel like I’ve got more to give.
As someone with a strong propensity for overthinking, I’m afraid I’ll spend so much time spinning my wheels about what I should be doing that I’ll never get around to actually doing.
Bouns fear - ELEVATORS
What’s the worst thing that could happen if I got stuck in an elevator?
Ask Jeremy and Doug what happened when I got an elevator with them in June.
On second thought....don't.