The Art of Fulfillment

The ultimate goal. 

It's not to lose 20lbs. 

It's not to fit into those jeans. 

The ultimate goal for all of us?

To feel fulfilled.

Any goal you have...

Money, fitness, relationship, any goal...

Ultimately, you will never be happy with it until you feel fulfilled. 

Achieving a goal is science, it's a calculation. 

Save this much each month and I'll have this much money. 

Eat this many calories and workout this many times and I'll weigh this much. 

It's science. 

What I want to focus on today is the art of fulfillment. 

We all have six human needs. 

It doesn't matter who you are, what you do, or what your goals are, we all have six needs. 

These come from Tony Robbins, and I've been spending a lot more time with these lately. 

As we check more boxes, as we hit our goals, as we set new goals, constantly raising the bar, why sometimes do we not feel fulfilled?

We don't have the six needs. 

What are they?

1. Certainty

In some aspects of life, you need to have certainty. 

You need to be certain that you'll have a roof over your head. 

You need to be certain you won't get hurt, you won't get bored, or you'll be able to do something without pain. 

Whether it's in fitness, family, or finances, there always needs to be a level of certainty. 

2. Variety

To counter certainty, we need variety. 

 We want the surprises that we want. 

We like to have spice in our life. 

Each of us is different in the level or type of variety, but we all need variety. 

Whether that's in your fitness, in your relationship, or in your career, as you much as you want certainty, you also want variety. 

3. Significance

We all want to feel important, we want to feel unique. 

We want to know that our boss appreciates us. 

We want to be the hero. 

We want to be in control, valued, and know that what we're doing right now is important. 

It's the small things like getting your name on the board, to getting an award at work. 

It's the recognition, the appreciation, and the gratitude. 

We all want to feel significant. 

4. Connection & Love

It could be a relationship, it could be a community, or it could be the connection with nature. 

As humans, we need to give love, feel love, and be connected. 

It's why our strongest piece at Spurling is not the workouts, not the equipment, but the community. 

People feel safe, they feel connected, and to some extent, they feel loved. 

Again, you can think of fitness, but you can also think about your career, your family life, or your personal life. 

5.  Grow

This is where the real magic happens. 

Tony believes that everyone has the first four. 

You don't survive if you don't have the first four. 

They may not be as developed as you would like, but to some extent you have them. 

The real magic is in these last two. 

Grow or die. 

We want to get better, we want to develop, we want challenges, we want new opportunities. 

We want to be able to progress. 

The drive to grow and develop is in all of us, you just need to find it. 

6. Contribute

Life is about giving. 

The happiest people in the world are not the people with the smallest waists, the biggest houses, or the most money, they are the people that have given the most. 

It's not about me, it's about we. 

Whether that's in giving back to your community, raising a family, or any other form of contribution, we all want to give back. 

The six human needs. 

We all need them, we all have them. 

However, like anything else, there are ones that we need to develop more.

Ultimately, it's these six things, not a number on the scale, not a size on a pant tag, that leave us fulfilled. 

1% Better. 

Dedicated to Your Success,

Doug Spurling